lovemaps

I'm dating someone who's love map has been vandalized.....damn it.

what is a love map you ask?


"A lovemap is a concept originated by John Money to assist a discussion of why people like what they enjoy sexually and erotically. According to Money, it is "a developmental representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting the idealized lover and the idealized program of sexual and erotic activity projected in imagery or actually engaged in with that lover."[1]

A lovemap can be shaped by both positive and negative factors, things that attract or repel the person whose erotic tastes are being mapped. For reasons that are not always easy to understand, one person may be attracted to people of a particular gender, with a particular physical characteristic, with particular personality traits, and so forth. One may also find certain characteristics so threatening or objectionable that it strongly mitigates against an erotic attraction being manifested.

A lovemap can be shaped by environmental factors that facilitate the formation of an erotic bond, or that enhance or diminish erotic response. For instance, some people may bond strongly to people with whom they share a crisis situation. Some people may find their erotic responses muted in the presence of intimidating environmental factors (observant elders or nosy neighbors, for instance). "

So that's what a Lovemap is and the man I'm dating has a lovemap that has had a razor blade and shapie taking to it. I was reading this as a came across this while looking up imprinting (don't ask). And I got to thinking is all of it so predestined? and so unchangable? Or is it just another way to classife just another stage in your life. Or is it some what more of a biproduct of everything else. You're love map that is. Your turn ons and your turn offs.... your needs.